As a human being we have many desires, some are really fascinating and some are damn silly, most of our wishes comes true and most did not. But nevertheless we continue to build our hope and with the passage of time that unfulfilled was no longing there and instead of it we have some new wish.
One of my wish, which I desire from my childhood, is to get a look inside people heart and mind.
But I really want it from my whole heart. I wanna see what others are thinking. And I also thought if I cannot get into everyone’s mind or heart, at least can I get into my partners mind 😉 When he is lying with me? And when his feelings are true?
I think getting in our partners mind is a wish we all desire.
Lolzzz, now you don’t need to feel ashamed for this, coz it’s a natural wish 😀
Mostly people have the quality to read others mind. Especially FBI agents have those skills through which they can get in others mind and can easily suspect their victims.
I think you are not surprised by this, you too may have witness some people around you, who can exactly get to the point what other one is thinking or what is in their heart.
And then you are like, oh how come he knows that???
Is that a magic trick???
Well fortunately my desire for reading others has comes true to a great extent. Well you know this is not as such difficult task as we think. Coz it’s just a mind game. According to a research people speak through their body language.
The thing is that if you understand the body language you will have the key to a person’s mind or heart.
Do you wanna read other’s people mind too like FBI agents, well here you go.
1. Observing the habits and details
For this you have to notice the behavior and habit of people around you, and it takes a bit time to notice each and everything, like how a person eat his food, which face he usually made, when they touch the hairs, etc
Every sign has a different reason. Some points out their nervousness, or avoiding you, are stress, overexcited, hiding something or lying.
2. Inquiring provide information
Once you note down and create the base line now is the time to ask the questions. Because questions will help you to get in detail, and you can easily know what is going behind.
You can ask question first in formal ways like, how are you? How’s your day going?
After that you have to create a comfort zone, you need to learn about that person and you can do this by asking different questions, through which you can learn about the personality of that person. For example if you ask, which movie do you like the most? And if the person answers that, I love Titanic, or The Note book, or La La Land, then you can easily understand that the person is romantic in nature.
3. Compare the usual behavior pattern
If a person is showing some unusual behavior than as he used to have, it means there is something fishy. Like if he is getting frustrating on small things which he not used to do, or he is quiet whole day, it means that he/ she is hiding something and is worried about something.
4. The way hands are shook
When we meet somebody, we shake hands. It is the most generalized and recognized way of greeting the world. This handshake tells a lot about the person. For this you have to learn the types and details of handshake.
- Perfect Hand Shake
A good handshakes is the one in which thumbs are locked around each other‘s upper hand and fingers must be firmly gripped. It shows that the person is self confident, able to lead and follow easily. Can work well with others and can be easily trust. It also shows that there is no hidden weapon which could be used during a meeting.
- The Push off and pull in
Usually when we met after shaking hands, horizontally we push it or pull it in a slow motion. Push off shows a negative impression and it’s like you are not happy with that person and you want that, that person should leave early. On the other hand pull in displays a positive sign, it shows the enthusiasm you have. How happy you are with that person and you want to be close with that person.
- The topper
If the person hold the hand, in a way that his hand is on the top and the other person hand’s is under his hand, that means the person who is holding the hand at the top has a dominant personality and want to control the weaker person. Basically it’s a sly way of letting the other person know who is in charge without being aggressive.
- Two hand shaker
It involves right hand is being shook and other hand is cupping the shaking hand. Or putting the left hand on other person’s shoulder while shaking your right hand is a sign of trust and sincerity. It also shows that how much you are comfortable with that person. The person is giving comfort to you and wants to put you at ease.
- Fast Shake
If handshake is fast, like you quickly grab the hands, shake it up and down and then release it promptly, simply shows, that the person is in rush or emergency. He doesn’t want to waste his time in greetings but he needs to follow the formality.
- The finger shake
Instead of clasping the whole hand for shake, if a person just grab the fingers and shake it, doesn’t touch his palm during hand shake means that the person want to keep you at distant, he is shy or is hiding something .
- Shaky and sweating Hands
It is a sign which shows the nervousness. When a person is nervous they are more likely to sweat. Means it’s a sign which shows weakness.
- Fist bump
Fist bump is the sign of comfort. Instead of shaking hands, the fits are bumped into each other. Mostly it can be seen between the people who are too close to each other, like between friends and siblings.
- Pointing Finger
Pointing fingers at somebody consider as rude. Mostly people use a finger pointing gesture when they are concerned to defend themselves by using it as a counter attack. A person who point finger, give gesture that the person whom he is pointing is weak and that the pointing one is the dominant one.
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5. Position of hands
- Clenching hand at back
Hand Clasped at the back shows is a sign of superiority, confidence and power. It also conveys that the person is angry and the other person is in his charge. It also convey the message the persons rights are ended where else someone else’s begin.
Steepling is a way in which fingers are pressed towards the sky. If a person is steepling in front of his face, it reflects that the person is in deep thought or he is focusing and listening very attentively. It also shows confidence.
- Clenching fist
Clenching fist shows that the person is in pain or is angry, and they are controlling it.
- Crosse Arm
If arms are closed on the chest it shows the defensiveness and resistance. It means that he doesn’t want to open or communicate. In this way a barrier is put in front of the body, as some sort of protection. It also shows the feeling of insecurity and the person want to comfort him.
- Hands in pocket
Hands in pocket show a mixed behavior, it is positive as well as negative too depending on the situation. It also shows boredom. It is the best way to hide the information as hand gestures conveys a lot of message. During interview and meetings, it is not considered as a good sign.
- Hands on Hip
Hands on hip shows that the person is ready to take the charge of his work and is attentive too
6. The language of feet
- Cross Leg
When the person is standing leg across means he is not interested a t all. Or he has a closed mind about the topic you are discussing. It can also be a sign of submissiveness.
But on the other hand,
Crossing the legs while sitting shows that a person likes to argue or compete. It means that he is open for communication. Sometimes it also conveys that the person has already a decision or a conclusion.
- Feet pointing towards you
If someone’s feet are pointed toward you, then it is a good sign, it shows that the person has an interest in you and your communication and want to spend time with you and vice versa. If they are pointed away from you, that’s bad, it shows the lack of interest.
7. Leaning forward
When you like somebody you want to be closer to them. The closer you get the more interested you are. It shows that you are interested in the talk. But sometimes leaning in extra is also a sign of warning.
8. Raising eyebrows
Raising eyebrow show a mixed signed of emotions. It shows the gesture of surprise, worry, confused and fear. Sometime people also raise eyebrows when they are frustrated or bored
9. Avoiding eye Contact
There is a saying that,
Eyes are windows to the soul
Avoiding eye contact is a gesture which shows that you are hiding something, or you are lying. Good liars also aware of that notion that eyes cannot lie, so if someone is avoiding the eye contact during communication it means that person is lying.
10. Facial Expressions
Our face is like a projector, when you are happy inside, you face lit with smile and when you are sad it automatically turns down.
Whatever the person is saying if it doesn’t going with their face, it means that they are lying. For example if your friend is looking sad and you ask him and he replies that he is fine but his slight pulling down lips in the corner jaw and loss focus in the eyes shows that he is lying and he is actually sad.
Sometimes the facial expressions show the accurate emotions on the other hand they can be deceiving too. Coz people can hide their facial expression really well. You can get the complete guide of reading facial expressions from here
So overall thing is that reading a person just not depend on one thing like you cannot rely only on the body language, you have to read each and everything, the behavior of a person, his body language, his attitude, voice tone, facial expressions. Then you will get the more insight of a person.
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